But you DID do something. You used Quaker Affirmation, -- or showed it, and did it. That's what worked, not avoiding the conflict. You embraced the conflict, as John Dewey would, welcoming conflict as "pregnant" -- and did practical things that spoke to the Light within him and you. All problems occur against a backdrop of a context or other tasks that are larger. I like this story, and wonder if it would work to help my daughter in law and son open up to my seeing my only grandchild, whom they cut off from both sets of grandparents ten years ago. So sad.
But you DID do something. You used Quaker Affirmation, -- or showed it, and did it. That's what worked, not avoiding the conflict. You embraced the conflict, as John Dewey would, welcoming conflict as "pregnant" -- and did practical things that spoke to the Light within him and you. All problems occur against a backdrop of a context or other tasks that are larger. I like this story, and wonder if it would work to help my daughter in law and son open up to my seeing my only grandchild, whom they cut off from both sets of grandparents ten years ago. So sad.
Sarah, it doesn't sound like her behavior is an isolated incident. I think what I did worked because we had a good relationship before this.