I’ve adapted this four-step technique from Bonnie Tinker, a Quaker. She used it as an activist and advocate for a cause that was very personal for her, gay marriage, but it can be applied to any situation. As I’ve done research on this idea, I’ve found that many other experts use very similar steps. Some of Bonnie’s specific steps were: Ask questions, listen, affirm what you can, and then finally respond. I’ve modified that to a specific form of response, reframing. (For my newest subscribers who might have missed the earlier newsletters, I’ve included links to previous posts explaining each of the steps here:
Reframing
Reframing
Reframing
I’ve adapted this four-step technique from Bonnie Tinker, a Quaker. She used it as an activist and advocate for a cause that was very personal for her, gay marriage, but it can be applied to any situation. As I’ve done research on this idea, I’ve found that many other experts use very similar steps. Some of Bonnie’s specific steps were: Ask questions, listen, affirm what you can, and then finally respond. I’ve modified that to a specific form of response, reframing. (For my newest subscribers who might have missed the earlier newsletters, I’ve included links to previous posts explaining each of the steps here: