What is the outcome you want from a conversation?

As you are engaging with in the relationship you wish to mend, think about the outcome you want.

Here’s a list of some potential outcomes that you might want when you engage:

• exhibit dominance

• vent

• process

• get feedback/another perspective

• be heard

• make a connection

• convince someone to do something

• make ourselves feel superior to the other person

• brainstorm

• speak your truth

• feel powerful

• get advice

• provide advice.

There might be others, but this seems like a good list to start with. If you have suggestions, please put them in the comments.

Also, there might be more than one outcome you desire. I write this newsletter with the idea that we can improve our relationships by changing our communication, so making a connection might be one of the desired outcomes, but there might others also.

One of the things I will try to implement in the coming period is to consider what outcome I want and communicate it. That will increase the likelihood of getting what I want.