I’ve run my previous post about asking questions a few times (link) plus one on bad questions (link) but the question of why people do things keeps coming up.
1) A really excellent question is, “What is the most important to you about (that)?”
And that’s a question you can ask a couple times! “What else is important to you about (that)?”
2) “Why” questions are often grieving questions, not information-gathering questions. That’s one of the main reasons they are loaded with all the emotions of loss.
Do your grieving with someone you feel is emotionally safe.
From a reader, with permission:
1) A really excellent question is, “What is the most important to you about (that)?”
And that’s a question you can ask a couple times! “What else is important to you about (that)?”
2) “Why” questions are often grieving questions, not information-gathering questions. That’s one of the main reasons they are loaded with all the emotions of loss.
Do your grieving with someone you feel is emotionally safe.