Avoid saying things that backfire

I got a tip about this website about words that can backfire from a reader (Thanks, Val!). 

I’ve always known that you can say things that backfire, but this article details several I never thought of.  Some of them are caused by trigger words, words that have connotations that you may not realize, that activate an identity   

I loved this TED talk by Isaac Saul, originator of the newsletter “Tangle” that highlights arguments from the right, left, and center on the big debates  of the day. In it, he talks about how to be careful about your language in order to avoid saying things that backfire. One of his tips that it is respectful to use the language that people use about themselves.   I love his newsletter, if you want to check it out, here’s the link.